No the ditching of the junk.
This is where things started getting tricky.
Another light year.
Step one step two step three step four the easy parts make a decision to change.
See once someone is your life coach and client or you have hit rock bottom hard enough make a decision
to change isn't so much of a complex or a complicated thing when someone realizes that the only way
their life is going to move forward is if they take control of the process.
Make a decision to change and take action.
Just the practical next steps.
Most people who come here for coaching or already have taken those to bear in mind they would like we
I have come to here unless they have made a decision to change in some way.
And the fact that they have actually come to you to begin with all that is actually them taking action.
So based upon your competence and how effective you are your communication skills your communication
styles and how much value you ultimately offer your clients is going to determine whether they commit
to you or commit to the process or not aren't on the same level at their level of commitment to the
actual process and the decision that they made is also going to determine whether they commit to their
life coaching process to and this is for you to assess on an ongoing basis.
Ditching the junk can be about ditching anything that we've discussed throughout the course limiting
beliefs.
And we understand that limiting beliefs are a problem because most people don't know what their limiting
beliefs are.
None of us wake up in the morning and decide to develop some limiting beliefs.
They are developed.
Remember the video we shared earlier on.
Maurice masses.
Three.
Process with three stages of life.
We have the imprinting years of socialization years in and of what like.
Well that's where our beliefs are fundamentally developed where we develop the beliefs about our selves.
We start signing social labels onto ourselves and that's going to be the stuff that acts as the noose
around our neck that prevents us from moving forward and progressing in any area of life as we define
in our through the life balance workbook.
So ditching the junk is about us beginning to identify the choices that were making that aren't serving
us and through understanding core values that might be the case that someone is choosing security over
freedom.
That may be choosing connection over authenticity in which case they're also sacrificing freedom.
Do you see how all of this completely interconnects.
It might be that some people have a stinking attitude.
Are some really detrimental communication styles or pattern that they use which may or may not be aware
of.
May be completely unaware off.
But as it caught your porch is to help your clients bring out the very very best present their best
the best versions of themselves to the world.
Saw through confrontation.
We ask questions.
I just wonder you know is this serving you is serving other people as we go back to the Eisenhower model
or we go to the other model with a win win win lose or lose all that so I think things are good for
us.
Good for our people good for ourselves good for other people not good for us not good for all people.
We use these frameworks to evaluate and assess and take stock as to whether they're the actions or inactions
of people taken are actually helping them get closer to the desired goals.
And if they're not we're going to ditch the junk.
It may be the case that some people come to you who are in your 25 store in way that they have really
low self-esteem.
So they come to you for some life coaching to help them get out of this rot that the renne know the
fascinating thing about obesity is that people develop low self-esteem through the beliefs we develop
about themselves in the early stages of life.
So to make them feel better.
The eat as a result of eating put on more weight and as a result of putting on more weight then feel
even worse about themself and their self-esteem continues to drop it's like a vicious cycle.
So we were in this situation.
We understand that what it is it needs to be damaged is the limiting identity belief that they have
about themselves.
We've already discussed that people act and behave in accordance with who honestly believe they are.
So if someone believes that they are fat ugly worthless useless and these are some huge beliefs that
people do carry round for anything up to a lifetime then this is when the core identity model becomes
absolutely crucial.
Right.
More than anything else we're helping someone to find.
They are actually are if they believe they are worth less we can help them to correct this belief by
saying okay well you see of your worthless but your love and could you be more loving could you be more
caring.
Could you be more honest.
Could you be more generous.
Could you be more giving.
Could you be more sincere.
Could you be more creative.
Could you be more proactive.
Could you be more compassionate more passionate.
Could you be commit more time to growing and developing yourself.
Could you could you could you.
Are you really doing is asking them questions to help them.
Implored the limiting belief that they have inside of themselves.
Just asking questions not by dumping loads of information and telling them who they are by helping them
to see who it is that they can potentially become.
Does this make sense.
I hope it does.
I want the stuff I want you to get it so bad so you can get out there and change the world.
Why.
Remember the fish principle.
Give a person a fish for today.
That's just a demonstration of dependency which is what many of youth coaches today operate under and
they're fine with it.
They just want loads of clients so they can make loads of money from and I hate that.
Alright for me you can teach a man how to fashion your gallwey ANY officer himself for the rest of his
days.
But it's not particularly meaningful.
I love this idea.
Teach a man or a person to teach other people how to fetch and together we can link arms get ourselves
out there and end world hunger.
And this is kind of what we're doing here.
We're ending world hunger through helping people to ditch the junk.
The limiting beliefs the destructive attitudes the negative limiting behaviours actions that they take
in their lives.
We understand that a motions motions can't really be reached.
He can't really ditch the emotions because the emotions stem from the thoughts.
Are we saying the thoughts we think nine times out a 10.
Always stay as a result of the beliefs that we've developed about ourselves as children.
So we can attack and correct or modify the beliefs then everything else is kind of like a domino effect.
But the do just falls into place.
Trust me I've seen this time and time again where I am talking about here and now.
Once someone has debt they are limiting beliefs then and only then are they going to beg again to recognize
identify and possibly even accept and embrace their intrinsic value which is going to be based upon
the truth about who they actually are and is then and only then is your client then going to be able
to even start considering giving something back which is Step 6 in this fascinating life coaching framework
which I'm going to share with you in the next video.
So just to give you a quick overview.
Step one they've got to make a decision to change step 2 then go take action.
If they're not taking action they've not made a decision to change.
Step number three they've got to commit to something they've got to commit to the process.
If you're wanting to experience change in your life right now what decision have you made.
I actually followed up with taking action about you committed to this action to this course of action.
Are you committed to the process.
And if so how often.
How frequently it takes they take stock.
This is about a valuating and assessing your approach to the way to tackling the decision that you've
made to overcoming whatever problems you want to overcome.
Taking stock is about adjusting and adapting if necessary modifying the approach and and and making
changes.
It's also about ditching the junk any negative habits and attitudes beliefs perspectives actions behaviours
that you have that are preventing you from getting where you are today to where you want to be.
And just to be clear here where we want to be in life as we want to be significant.
Don't we.
We want to know that we're worth something to other people.
We want to know that were valuable.
We want to know that we're a vile were used by other people and all we're this is ever going to happen
is if we can met on some level to giving back which we're going to unpack and explore the next avenue.